Becoming pregnancy after miscarriages or losing a baby no matter how long it has been can be a very emotional time for mom-to-be. She will have all kinds of emotions cropping up inside such as will I lose this baby, maybe my body will not carry the baby to full term and many more associated with miscarriages. However, if the baby was born stillborn or passed away shortly after birth or even a few months after birth from a disease such as SIDS, there are all kinds of emotions once again to worry and confuse the mom-to-be about her worthiness to have a child.
You may have problems getting excited about this new baby. You may have old wounds come to the surface concerning the child that you lost and have a very hard time becoming excited because of fears or guilt. This is very normal.
You should find someone to talk with about how you are feeling. Your partner is a great choice as he may also be having some of the same thoughts and worries as you. The time period from the loss to this pregnancy does not matter, if it was five years ago or just a year ago, the pain can come to the surface and cause you all kinds of emotional turmoil. Talk about these feelings with your partner.
Not only do you need the support from your partner, but you can also find family and friends that will be willing to help you overcome your fears and worries. You will need love and support from everyone around you.
You may decide to join a support group with other parents that are now pregnant after miscarriages, losing a baby or child. This could be a great way to go through this pregnancy with others that are doing the same; you may even make some really great friendships along the way.
There are also counseling centers that you and your partner can find help. If your partner will not go, you can still find a counselor that will talk with you, listen to you, and of course help you become excited and enjoy this pregnancy, as you should.
Seek out the emotional support that you need and talk with your own physician to ensure that this baby is healthy and that you are doing all in your power to ensure a healthy pregnancy and healthy labor and delivery.
